I Want Lists
With the new year just around the corner, like most people, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want out of 2019 and here’s what I’ve got so far:
By the end of 2019, I want to be closer to living the life I want than I am today.
It’s vague and obvious and uninspiring, I know. But when it came time to get to the specifics, I realized that I can’t decide what I want out of this year when I can’t decide what I want out of this life. I’ve spent a lot of time this year trying to equip myself with the tools I need to pursue the things I want, but how can I go after the things I crave if I don’t even know what they are?
Sitting down with a journal and scribbling WHAT I WANT OUT OF LIFE across the top felt even more daunting than writing TANGIBLE GOALS FOR 2019, so I did some Googling and found that, after discovering that more than 80% of people can’t confidently tell you what it is they want, the Happiness Concierge had developed a baby step prompt designed to help people work towards that answer.
Instead of giving yourself one terrifying question, you create a collection of three “I Want Lists”: I want to feel, I want to have, I want to be. For each thing on each list, the Happiness Concierge then challenges you to create an action plan, giving each goal a timeline, determining a small, clear, first step and defining a habit that, once formed, will support the fulfillment of your goal.
So here’s what I want.
I want to feel
I want to feel more capable than I did yesterday, every day.
I want to feel passionate.
I want to feel powerful.
I want to feel confident in my work.
I want to feel secure in my friendships.
I want to feel happy for the victories of those around me without feeling threatened or competitive.
I want to feel physically strong.
I want to have
I want to have a year of living expenses in savings.
I want to have a portfolio of clients around the globe.
I want to have a beautiful home that I’m happy to share with people I love.
I want to have a creative outlet that pays.
I want to have a fulfilling and healthy romantic partnership.
I want to achieve
(Okay, this one is still pretty intimidating so the Happiness Concierge suggested starting with what you wanted to be when you were a kid and working your way to now. Here’s what I came up with.)
As a kid, I wanted to be a mother, a supreme court justice and a spice girl.
In college, I wanted to be a mother, a wife, an academic and a writer.
After the end of my marriage, all I wanted to be was self-sufficient.
What I’d actually love to be is brave enough to let people in.
I’d also love to be a writer, a speaker, a creative executive, a mentor and, yes, a mother.
What about you? What do you want to feel, have and achieve?